Greetings everyone -
Happy almost Turkey Day!
November is flying by, pretty soon we’re going careen right into the Turkey and stuffing, and then go cartwheeling into Santa’s lap. Ah, the holidays - I’ve learned to love them in a different way than I used to. Sort of like my period. Just kidding! sort of.
For the first time in a few years, I'm not cooking or hosting. Both of my kids are a gillion miles away, and my sweet man with a Mexican passport does not celebrate Thanksgiving, nor do the other 8.8 million people in Mexico City.
So yeah, it feels a little strange, but in truth, its an example of getting what you ask for. And I've been asking for a window of time to just write. (I'll confess that it also helps me to know that I'm going to see my girl Jessie in London over Christmas!)
I'm not going all commando and off the grid for 4 days but in truth....
This year I am haunted by January 1. I am obsessed with clearing some stuff off my big to-do list.
I had an executive coach years ago who taught me to create a tolerations list and start scheduling time to mark it off.
By tolerations she met those things you are going to do, want to do, don’t want to do, should do, but for whatever reason you don’t do them. It can be anything from scheduling that check up, cleaning out your closet, catching up on tax paperwork, or
write your book.
I choose the latter.
So that is the main thing I will be doing from 12:00 noon tomorrow until whatever time Sunday night.
I’m working on the first version of a book about women, resiliency and feminine bravery.
Before you roll your eyes and think, "Kala, Eat Pray Love and Wild have already been written", hear me out. That's not what this is.
(By the way, am I the only woman in North America that didn’t think Wild was all that amazing?)
It is not a “tale of my awakening” (now I’m rolling my eyes, too), it includes some of my story, but not for its own sake.
I am more resilient and brave now, especially compared to a few of years ago. I’m grateful for that, because there is much more apparent risk in my life than there used to be. The jury is still out on several major points, yet I wake up more energized than I have been in years.
It doesn’t mean that I am not scared at times. No. We all know that being brave is not the absence of fear. Just the other evening I had a meltdown and picked a fight with my man. Totally projected my BS onto him. Not pretty.
What I've noticed is its like my soul is developing teflon. Things don't stick. I apologized, he accepted (to be honest, as a Mexican man who grew up around volatile Latinas, he's like, "is that all you got? its not a problem mi amor") and we moved on.
Over the past few years I’ve found the guides, the advice, the tools and truth. My success in reaching this point was a product of relying on a multitude of insights, learnings, and teachings from people alive and dead. And then taking action on them.
Here’s my twist. I’m obsessed with the journey. Maybe not so much with Cheryl Strayed's (author of Wild) but mine, yours, theirs - other women, other cultures, and men too.
Its because our paths are all linked, of course. I’m committed to creating practical fabulous work that supports women on their life journey, whatever that looks like for them, and builds community among us.
These are the first 2 topics. I think there are 5 total but we'll see what the Muse has to say.
1. How it works - the actual process I've observed women use over and over again to stay rock-solid centered in the middle of life’s hurricanes...or earthquake, or fire. Its also the process that kept me sane in dismantling a 26 year marriage.
2. Knowing where you are going - beyond goal setting.
I'm taking this on at the same time I’m producing some major projects for year end for my business.
We just finished up the Women's DreamBiz to Action Plan Summit for Women and I felt like I had a Facebook chip implanted in my eyeball. Those of you who are in my social networks are probably getting relentlessly spammed with the DreamBiz posts.
Thank you for not de-friending me. : )
I've got one more push with the DBTD coming late November. I “should” wait and focus only on that and on building out the DreamBiz Test Drive audience. Focus on one thing. That is what all the gurus tell you. My bank account certainly agrees with that.
Funny thing, have you ever noticed that those gurus are mostly men with an extensive support system of mostly women?
After surveying the wreckage of 2016 and its affect on women, I cannot wait. The next 20 years are NOT like any time in the past. The news is not all bad, either, but the challenges are huge.
It's crunch time, ladies, and "first world" women in midlife are one of the most powerful influences in the mix.
So I just hit you with the big picture, which again is exactly what all the gurus say not to do. That’s OK, I know you can handle it.
Beyond that, I know you get it.
Back to the little picture:
To keep myself accountable, I’ll be sharing an overview of each section starting this Sunday evening at 7:00 CDT, on YinCaravana's page with Facebook live.
Yes, I have mixed feelings about the venue, but we'll give it a try.
You don't have to do anything, just knowing you are out there will keep me on track.
If you want to come and watch, awesome. If you want to bring a friend, equally awesome. Whether I’m talking to dozens or just me, I’ll be there.
I'm not promoting this in any paid way, Facebook shares nothing for free anymore, and people are busy. Thats OK. I have no control over Facebook algorithms and people’s busy lives.
I do have control over 1) creating my stuff and 2) putting it out there.
That’s why I’m tying myself to the mast, I need the pressure of accountability. Just knowing you are all out there is incredibly helpful.
And by Christmas I’ll reach the end of the book that is really just the beginning of a bunch of magic for 2018.
Thanks so much for your support. If I can ever return the favor, please let me know!
Big Love - and Gratitude!
This is way bigger than a PS, so maybe it’s more like a stay tuned. Get your pencils out and put a big heart around late September.
I’m super stoked to be working on a Women’s Oasis Retreat to Costa Rica next year.
A good friend with a big soul is co-creating this with me for a small group of women. Her background includes a passion for sustainable travel, producing for the Travel Channel, Nat’l Geographic, and setting up the travel program for the American Institute of Architects. Hubba hubba! <3 a tiny bit more info here.