This is day 5 of the daily "Boss of Me" 10 day series to help you take action around some common midlife challenges. Day 4 included tips if your hormones are driving you crazy.
Today's all too common thought for the day is "I don't have enough time".
This is a close cousin of "I'm too busy" from Day 2.
I belong to some FB groups for midlife ladies. Its eye-opening reading. These ladies are sharing things in a group of a couple thousand strangers that I KNOW they are not telling their friends and family.
I read one post about a woman who cleans her own house, does all the shopping and cooking and most of the errands, holds responsibility for administration of the family. Her spouse helps but it’s only the chores of his choosing, and sort of only when he feels like it, so its not like she ever feels like his list “is handled”.
Oh, and she works full time, too. It's no wonder she feels like she didn't have enough time to work on some of the stuff that was tugging at her soul.
What to DO:
These tips have worked for me and others:
If you feel like you don't have enough time, let's go look for some.
Step outside of yourself and take a calm look at how you spend your time.
Ask yourself, what are the roots of those activities?
Really pull each one up and look underneath it.
What process, system or relationship dynamic is being nurtured or propped up by that task?
Based on your values and goals, is this something that you still want to spend your time and energy on?
If no, then refuse or delegate it.
This, like downsizing, is one of those things that sounds so simple and in reality is quite difficult.
It is an interesting experiment to try. I really advise you to have some support from other women before your start because this can unearth some challenging conversations with those that are used to you filling up your calendar and time with their priorities, like the woman in the example above.
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Got time for one more?
Boss of Me Series # 6 - I Often Feel Distracted
Boss of Me Series # 4 - My Hormones are Driving Me Crazy