I'm Kala Philo. Welcome. : )
Here's my story, maybe you can relate to pieces of it? I would love to hear yours.
Like many women, I spent my 30’s and 40’s juggling priorities of family and a dual career household. My career in freelance marketing video production (I created short marketing videos for businesses and organizations) was always second priority to my spouse’s career and my family’s needs, and I was (mostly) fine with that at the time.
However, there were many moments I felt restless and discontented. I had always had bigger dreams ideas lurking within me, waking me up at night like fussy babies.
I told myself, just wait, Someday you can figure it out.
Basically, I THOUGHT a lot about making a change, but did not do much about it.
Why? Because I was afraid.
Because I did not know where to start.
So I waited.
Well, one day Someday arrived and it was not pretty. Not at all.
When my youngest daughter graduated from high school, I had separated from a 26 year marriage. When the marriage ended, I chose not to pursue alimony even though my husband at that time made 5x what I was making.
When I closed out that chapter of my life, it sunk in.
I shouldn’t have waited on my dreams.
Someday had arrived, but I was 52 years old and not independently wealthy. The window of opportunity was uncertain and not going to be open forever.
So, with my sweet girl on her way to college, this armchair entrepreneur finally got sick of the view from the couch. Maybe you can relate?
I didn’t wait anymore. I left the nest really empty.
I sold or donated everything that wouldn’t fit into my trusty Honda CRV to help fund my dreams, and I hit the road.
I’ve always been half bear, so I spent a winter hibernating and healing in the mountains of Montana. I skied for the first time in 25 years and conquered the intermediate slopes, I shouted "mush" on a crazy sledding trip behind one of the world's most ancient dog breeds, I walked daily with the eagles by a lake with frozen waves. I ate wholesome warm food and slept a lot in a big comfy bed.
After that I worked online as a “digital nomad” and traveled solo for 18 months throughout the US, Mexico and Latin America. My spanish got really good muy pronto!
I shredded my comfort zone, upleveled my skillset and reclaimed my chutzpah. I supercharged my network by meeting fabulous women and men all over the world. I leaned on the best teachings from spiritual gurus and present day thought leaders.
Here is the key, ladies, and I point it out because as women, we do not like to spend money on ourselves, except for an irrational fascination with handbags and shoes: I caught up on a lot of deferred maintenance on myself, investing in personal development, coaching and business building programs and networks.
With the support and love of many many special people to whom I will forever be grateful, I began living the life of my dreams. I got clear on the impact I want to make, and Why.
I have lots more stories about the last couple of years, but the main point is I have somersaulted out of the tumult of midlife crisis and landed on my feet happier and healthier than I have ever been.
Having said that, it was not easy. Not at all, and every day brings new challenges and gifts.
I live in Mexico City right now re-creating a life that is even better than I could had planned. All of my life metrics are a 10+, I'm in better shape and happier than I've ever been; my relationships are whole and satisfying, including a sweet handsome Mexicano who treats me like I’m his miracle.
I’m also finally in love with what I do every day.
What I am is a Strategist for the Female Journey. I help women find their tribe, tools and treasure to totally rock midlife transformation. This is NOT your mama's midlife.
There are many advisors out there to help you reach your goals - some are accomplished motivational speakers or researchers. I follow a few of them, in fact!
I can authentically say a big difference between myself and many of them is I accept significant risk and take radical action, as my story shows. I don't only report findings or repackage other's experiences.
The internet is awash with information, you can google whatever factoid you want to know in 5 seconds flat.
Women don't need more information, we need more transformation!
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