Letting go of the little girl to empower the young women - the top 10 things our girls need before they leave the nest.
With the fall months, some of the young women in our lives are transitioning from high school and home to college or moving out to begin life outside the nest.
This is an understandably challenging transition for everyone.
I was extremely fortunate that when my teen girl and I were navigating these choppy waters, I had a very dear friend who also happens to be a teen life coach, Barb Steinberg.
Based on what I learned from Barb, I sometimes see posts on Facebook that make me wince a bit. - One was a debate about setting up tracking on a teens phone without their knowledge - it seems disrespectful of a young person's privacy and it amounts to spying on our kids - what message does it send? "I own you and I don't trust you AT ALL". - in an attempt to "keep them safe".
Another was a debate about a 17 year old riding in cars with peer drivers. I'm thinking, in less than a year your daughter will be in college and riding in cars with people you have no clue about, do you think forbidding it now, in the relatively safe community she lives in, will help her make good choices later?
Each family is different of course, but don't we all remember the kids we knew who went wild their Freshman year and had a pretty rough tumble because they had not been allowed to fail or mess up during the last years at home?
Unfortunately, 2017 has shown us more than ever that we don't have control over keeping anyone "safe". Do you ever feel frustrated, helpless and scared by that reality?
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One thing we CAN do when we feel at a loss is call on the wisdom of those within our community.
So I called Barb and asked if she would like to do an interview. Thankfully, she said yes!
Barb is a teen life coach and workshop facilitator who transforms the lives of adolescent girls and the adults who care about them. As a teen life coach, Barb has a knack for quickly getting to the core of the problem and guiding clients toward a solution. Both girls and adults find her extremely easy to relate to, open, warm and funny. Barb is gifted at balancing emotion and intellect and serving as a catalyst for long-lasting change.
Barb is a licensed, masters-level social worker with over 20 years of experience working with teens. Barb feels grateful to live and work in Austin, Texas, where she has had the opportunity to partner with many schools, parent groups, nonprofits and organizations who share her passion: supporting girls as they navigate the often tricky road of adolescence. You can reach Barb at Barb Steinberg Presents.
Here I've summarized Barb's The Top 10 Things Your Daughters Need From You Before They Fly the Nest.
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The Top 10 Things Your Daughters Need From You Before They Fly the Nest.
Please enjoy the interview!
What do you think? What is the balance between protecting and empowering our young women? What kind of buttons does this push for you, as an adult woman?
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